Practical Resources

Compiled for Flying Solo by
Margorie Engel, © 1994

RESOURCES ON PRACTICAL MATTERS

Organizations and publications in this section are listed under four headings including General, Divorce Education, Getting Organized, and Relocating.

GENERAL

17 Myths About Divorce ... And How to Avoid Them
Melvin M. Belli and Mel Krantzler. Cosmopolitan, Vol. 205, August 1988, pp. 91(4). Written by the authors of Divorcing. Lists the 17 most harmful myths about divorce and the reality behind them. The authors argue that realistic expectations can help you avoid the self-destructive behavior of seeing yourself as a victim. Myths include the belief that divorce is simply a legal document, problems will end after the divorce, men are hurt less by divorce than women, and others.

American Child Care Services
532 Settlers Landing Rd.
PO Box 548
Hampton, VA 23669
Phone: (804)722-4495
Individuals engaged in the field of children’s welfare and educational activities. Maintains Child Care Personnel Clearinghouse to facilitate contact between children’s institutions seeking to employ experienced personnel and individuals seeking employment in the field of child care.

Association of Child Advocates
1625 K St. NW, Ste. 510
Washington, DC 20006
Phone: (202)554-4747
Eve Brooks, Pres.
Independent, state, and local child advocacy organizations are members; other interested organizations are associate members. Serves as a forum for the exchange of ideas and information among members, whose activities impact on state and local public policy issues including family support service, child welfare, and child care. Goals include: increasing the ability of child advocacy organizations to influence public policy; maximizing the effectiveness of existing child advocacy resources and techniques; improving the fundraising methods and overall financial status of members; assisting in the development of new and emerging child advocacy organizations; enhancing public awareness of child advocates as responsible spokespersons for vulnerable children. Also known as: National Association of State-Based Child Advocacy Organizations. Publications: The Child Advocates Information Exchange, bimonthly. Newsletter includes member profiles, publication reviews, and calendar of events. Also publishes brochure.

Changes
229 E. William, Ste. 200
Wichita, KS 67202
Phone: (316)263-1166
Provides personalized occupational consulting for women experiencing divorce. Maintains employment network, database for funding alternatives for small businesses, resources for self improvement, and marketing services.

Child Care Action Campaign
330 7th Ave., 17th Fl.
New York, NY 10001
Phone: (212)239-0138
Fax: (212)268-6515
Barbara Reisman, Exec.Dir.
Individuals and organizations interested and active in child care; corporations and financial institutions; labor organizations; editors of leading women’s magazines; leaders in government and representatives of civic organizations. Purposes are to: alert the country to the problems of and need for child care services; prepare and disseminate information about child care needs; analyze existing services and identify gaps; work directly with communities to stimulate the development of local task forces and long-range plans for improved and coordinated services. Brings pressing legislative action or inaction to public attention. Has worked to help make liability insurance available for child care providers. Publications: Child Care ActioNews, bimonthly. Newsletter on innovations in the field of child care for working parents. Includes calendar of events, legislative update, and resource information. Also publishes Child Care: The Bottom Line, distributes media kit, and produces audio training cassettes for family day care.

Child Care Law Center
22 2nd St.
San Francisco, CA 94105
Phone: (415)495-5498
Fax: (415)495-6734
Carol S. Stevenson, Exec.Dir.
Provides legal services, technical assistance, and training programs to attorneys and others working to improve child care for low-income families. Develops legislative and regulatory policies; monitors legislative issues. Publications: Legal Update, quarterly. Newsletter. Also publishes Family Day Care Zoning Advocacy Guide, Legal Guide for Child Care Resource and Referral Agencies, and The Child Care Tax Credit: A Booklet for Parents.

Child Care Subsidies, Quality of Care, and the Labor Supply of Low-Income, Single Mothers
Mark C. Berger and Dan A. Black. Review of Economics and Statistics, Vol. 74, November 1992, pp. 635(8). A study was conducted to analyze the impact of child care subsidies on the decision of low-income single mothers to work and on the quality of services their children will receive. The study is based on two subsidy programs for Kentucky families. Results show that mothers who receive child care subsidies are more inclined to work and express more satisfaction for the services their children receive.

Children’s Foundation
725 15th St. NW, Ste. 505
Washington, DC 20005
Phone: (202)347-3300
Kay Hollestelle, Exec.Dir.
Concerned with social and economic issues, such as child support for low- and moderate-income women. Provides technical assistance to Child Care Food Program for family day care homes. Publications: Child Care Center Licensing Study. Provides a state-by-state breakdown of regulations for day care centers. Directory of Family Day Care Associations and Support Groups, annual. Lists over 1,100 groups involved in family day care issues nationwide. Family Day Care Licensing Study. Provides a state-by-state breakdown of regulations for family day care providers. Also publishes Better Baby Care, Helping Children Love Themselves and Others, Fact Sheet on Family Day Care, and Child Support: An Overview of the Problem.

The Complete Guide for Men and Women Divorcing
St. Martin’s Press, Inc.
175 5th Ave.
New York, NY 10010
Phone: (212)674-5151
Melvin Belli and Mel Krantzler. 1990. Offers advice on selecting a lawyer, keeping divorce costs down, communicating with the children, determining the best form of custody and visitation, channeling hostility, and dealing with the mourning process.

Cosmo Talks to Raoul Felder: Mega Divorce Lawyer
Interview by Stephanie Harrington. Cosmopolitan, Vol. 206, February 1989, pp. 126(2). Felder, whose list of clients includes former spouses of Mike Tyson and Robin Leach among others, gives brief advice to women considering divorce. Questions deal with common misconceptions held by women initiating divorce, prenuptial agreements, and settlement expectations.

Crazy Time
HarperPerennial
10 E. 53rd St.
New York, NY 10022-5299
Phone: (212)207-7000
Free: 800-331-3761
Abigail Trafford. 1992. Subtitle: Surviving Divorce and Building a New Life.

Dealing with a Divorce
Marlys Harris. Money, Vol. 17, June 1988, pp. 86(9). Includes related articles.

Divorce
Sage Publications, Inc.
2455 Teller Rd.
Newbury Park, CA 91320
Phone: (805)499-0721
Fax: (805)499-0871
Sharon J. Price and Patrick C. McKenry. 1988. Family studies text series.

Divorce After 50: Challenges and Choices
American Association of Retired Persons
601 E St., NW
Washington, DC 20049
Phone: (202)434-2277
American Association of Retired Persons. 1987. Provides information on divorce-related issues for retirees.

Divorce After 50: When Breaking Up Is Better When Its Not
Elise W. Snyder. New Choices for Retirement Living, Vol. 33, June 1993, pp. 62(4). Couples over the age of 50 commonly resort to divorce as a means to avoid the real problem inherent in their relationship. Divorce should be an avenue by which individuals mature and develop. Unless the underlying marital problem is addressed, divorce fails to achieve positive objectives.

Divorce Assistance Directory
American Business Directories, Inc.
American Business Information, Inc.
5711 S. 86th Circle
Omaha, NE 68127
Phone: (402)593-4600
Compiled from telephone company Yellow Pages. Lists company name, address, phone number, contact name, number of employees, and credit-rating codes.

Divorce Busting
Simon & Schuster Trade
Simon & Schuster Bldg.
1230 Avenue of the Americas
New York, NY 10020
Phone: (212)698-7000
Michele Weiner-Davis. 1993.

Divorce, a Four Letter Word
PT Publications, Inc.
4360 N. Lake Blvd., Ste. 214
Palm Beach, FL 33410
Phone: (407)624-0455
Free: 800-272-4335
Fax: (407)624-3689
Peter L. Grieco Jr. 1993.

Divorce & New Beginnings
John Wiley & Sons, Inc.
605 Third Ave.
New York, NY 10158-0012
Genevieve Clapp. 1992. Subtitle: An Authoritative Guide to Recovery and Growth, Solo Parenting, and Stepfamilies. Offers practical guidance on such topics as selecting an attorney, divorce mediation, helping children cope with divorce, managing stress, taking positive action, new beginnings in the job market, adjusting to single life, custody arrangements, and living in a stepfamily. Includes selected readings, and chapter checklists to help meet goals.

Divorce Resource Center
PO Box 98
Flushing, NY 11361
Phone: (718)224-5947
Offers counseling on divorce and divorce-related issues.

Divorce: Sometimes a Bad Notion
Fred Moody. Includes related articles. (Reprinted from Seattle
Weekly.) Utne Reader, Nov.-Dec. 1990, pp. 70(9).
Divorce: The First Five Minutes
Sean Elder. California, Vol. 14, November 1989, pp. 66(8).
Subtitle: What Happens When You Know Its All Over.

Divorce: Theory and Research
Lawrence Erlbaum Associates, Inc.
365 Broadway
Hillsdale, NJ 07642
Phone: (201)666-4110
Free: 800-926-6579
Joseph Guttman. 1992.

Divorce: You Can Do It Yourself
The Forms Man, Inc.
35A Jefryn Blvd., W.
Deer Park, NY 11729
Phone: (516)242-0009
Eric R. Lutker, Ph.D. and Carl F. Wand, Esq. 1992. Step-by-step guide to preparing yourself and your family for a successful divorce. Includes topics such as understanding the law, organizing data, tax and insurance issues, parenting for the future, reaching an agreement, drawing an agreement, and filing for divorce. Appendices include worksheets for collecting data on marital assets, and sample forms such as a Qualified Domestic Relations Order, and Stipulation of Settlement. Chart lists state provisions regarding divorce.

Families and Work Institute
330 7th Ave., 14th Fl.
New York, NY 10001
Phone: (212)465-2044
Fax: (212)465-8637
Ellen Galinsky, Co-Pres.
Conducts research and educational programs on: business, government, and community efforts to help families balance their work and family responsibilities; pressing policy questions in the public and private sectors; demographic trends. Sponsors conferences and seminars. Publications: Beyond the Parental Leave Debate, Corporate Reference Guide to Work-Family Programs, Labor Force Participation of Dual-Earner Couples and Single Parents, Productivity Effects of Workplace Child Care Centers, State Reference Guide to Work-Family Programs for State Employees, and other books.

The Family in Social Context
Oxford University Press
200 Madison Ave.
New York, NY 10016
Phone: (212)679-7300
Free: 800-451-7556
Fax: (212)725-2972
Gerald R. Leslie and Sheila K. Korman. 1989. Chapters cover topics such as the nature of the family, cross-cultural perspectives, the influence of religion, marital adjustment, and divorce.

From I Do to I’ll Sue
Plume/Meridian
375 Hudson St.
New York, NY, 10014
Phone: (212)366-2000
Jill Bauer. 1993. Subtitle: An Irreverent Compendium for Survivors of Divorce.

Happily Ever After: And Other Myths About Divorce
Scripture Press Publications, Inc.
1825 College Ave.
Wheaton, IL 60187
Phone: (708)668-6000
Free: 800-323-9409
Fax: (708)668-3806
Ron Durham. 1993.

Have You Thought About Divorce Lately?
Larry Miller. Cosmopolitan, Vol. 206, March 1989, pp. 240(4). Unsteady economic trends, the fear of AIDS, and other factors have led to a decline in divorce rates. A significant number of couples are opting for marriage counseling before calling it quits. Includes related information on a postdivorce high experienced by many women. Also, therapists offer 12 tips to ease the transition to single life.

How to ... Salvage Your Marriage or Survive Your Divorce
New Vistas Publishing
PO Box 44
Simi Valley, CA 93062
Phone: (805)583-4228
Fax: (805)526-2657
Tanist Newton. 1988.

How to Survive the Divorce
Legovac, Inc.
PO Box 150340
Altamonte Springs, FL 32715-0340
Robert S. Sigman. 1991.

The Individual, Marriage, and the Family
Wadsworth Publishing Co.
10 Davis Dr.
Belmont, CA 94002-9950
Phone: (415)595-2350
Fax: (415)592-3342
Lloyd Saxton. 1990. Chapters cover issues such as gender and gender-role behavior, couple interaction, marriage and family, and money and economic reality. Specifically addresses separation, annulment, and divorce.

Just Married But Will It Last?
Kathleen McAuliffe. U.S. News and World Report, Vol. 102, June 8, 1987, pp. 68(2). Based on research conducted by anthropologist Helen Fisher, world divorce statistics indicate a pattern in marriage compatibility, with most divorces occurring after four years. Theories are presented.

Learning to Leave: A Woman’s Guide
Warner Books, Inc.
Time & Life Bldg., 9th Fl.
1271 Avenue of the Americas
New York, NY 10020
Phone: (212)522-7200
Fax: (212)522-7998
Lynette Triere and Richard Peacock. Revised edition, 1993.

Lewis Grizzard’s Advice to the Newly Wed ... and the Newly
Divorced
Longstreet Press, Inc.
2150 Newmarket Pkwy., Ste. 102
Marietta, GA 30067
Phone: (404)980-1488
Free: 800-927-1488
Fax: (404)859-9894
Lewis Grizzard. 1989. Subtitle: I Can’t Remember the Names of My Ex-Wives: I Just Call Them Plaintiff.

Life After Loss
Fisher Books
PO Box 38040
Tucson, AZ 85740-8040
Phone: (602)292-9080
Free: 800-255-1514
Fax: (602)292-0431
Bob Deits. 1988. Subtitle: A Personal Guide Dealing with Death, Divorce, Job Change, and Relocation. Identifies ways to handle loss, take control of grief, and learn to enjoy life.

National Association of Child Care Resource and Referral Agencies
2116 Campus Dr. SE
Rochester, MN 55904
Phone: (507)287-2220
Fax: (507)287-2220
Dee Rabehl, Contact
Community-based child care resource and referral agencies that promote a diverse, high-quality child care system with parental choice that is accessible to all families. Local agencies offer information on local child care and early education programs and providers, current openings, and sources of financial aid.

National Association of Extension Home Economists
3611B Chain Bridge Rd.
Fairfax, VA 22030
Phone: (703)385-3801
Fax: (703)385-3762
Kathy Huggins, Exec.Dir.
Helps individuals and families find solutions to problems concerning family life such as child care and development, nutrition, energy conservation, budgeting, and family recreation. Sponsors conferences and trains volunteer leaders to work with individuals and groups.

National Association for Family Day Care
725 15th St. NW, Ste. 505
Washington, DC 20005
Phone: (202)347-3356
Free: 800-359-3817
Linda Geigle, Pres.
Members include parents, advocates, and providers of family day care services that offer child care in a household setting, allowing for flexible hours in supervision, personalized communication with parents, and greater individual attention to children. Operates National Assessment and Credentialling Program, which provides accreditation for family day care providers and their homes. Serves as a national voice for family day care providers and promotes quality standards for all day care operations.

Sexual Divisions Revisited
St. Martin’s Press, Inc.
175 5th Ave.
New York, NY 10010
Phone: (212)674-5151
Diana Leonard and Sheila Allen, editors. 1991. Discusses sex and gender issues such as woman as employees and the rationalization of housework. Specifically addresses the question 'Is there marriage after divorce?'

The Single-Again Handbook
Oliver Nelson Books
Nelson Pl. at Elm Hill Pike
PO Box 141000
Nashville, TN 37214-1000
Phone: (615)889-9000
Free: 800-251-4000
Fax: 800-448-8403
Thomas F. Jones. 1993.

Split Decisions: The Tough Get Going
Marilyn Webb. Harper’s Bazaar, Vol. 121, August 1988, pp. 156(2).
Survival Manual for Men in Divorce
Quantum Press
2724 Winding Trail Place
Boulder, CO 80304
Free: 800-875-1760
Edwin Schilling and Carol Ann Wilson. 1992. Answers 150 of the most commonly asked questions regarding marital property, child custody, alimony and debt, child support, and retirement benefits.

The Survival Manual for Women in Divorce
Quantum Press
2724 Winding Trail Place
Boulder, CO 80304
Free: 800-875-1760
Carol Ann Wilson and Edwin Schilling. 1990. Answers 150 of the most commonly asked questions regarding marital property, child custody, alimony and debt, child support, and retirement benefits.

Surviving Divorce: Women’s Resources After Separation
New York University Press
Div. of New York Univ.
70 Washington Sq.,S.
New York, NY 10012
Phone: (212)998-2575
Mavis Maclean. 1991.

Surviving Separation and Divorce
Baker Book House
PO Box 6287
Grand Rapids, MI 49516-6287
Phone: (616)676-9185
Free: 800-877-2665
Sharon Marshall. 1988.

Ten Major Reasons Women Get Divorced
Mary McHugh. Cosmopolitan, Vol. 202, May 1987, pp. 242(4). Discusses reasons why women get divorced, according to counselors, psychologists, psychiatrists, divorce lawyers, and family-court judges. Reasons include inaccurate expectations of marriage, lack of communication between spouses, substance and/or physical abuse, disagreements about money, and others.

The Way We Never Were
Basic Books
Div. of HarperCollins Pubs., Inc.
10 E. 53rd St.
New York, NY 10022
Phone: (212)207-7057
Free: 800-242-7737
Stephanie Coontz. 1992. Subtitle: American Families and the Nostalgia Trap. Examines the American family focusing on issues such as gender myths, feminism, working women, consumerism, and tradition.

Weddings for Complicated Families
Mt. Ivy Press, Inc.
PO Box 142
Boston, MA 02258
Phone: (617)244-2216
Margorie Engel. 1993. Subtitle: The New Etiquette. Offers practical suggestions regarding wedding etiquette for families reshaped by divorce. Topics cover invitations, showers, ceremony seating, and other details to help avoid minefields.

When Divorce Happens
Ave Maria Press
Campus of Notre Dame
Notre Dame, IN 46556
Phone: (219)287-2831
Free: 800-282-1865
James Greteman and Joseph Dunne. 1990. Subtitle: A Guide for Family and Friends.

A Woman’s Guide to Divorce and Decision Making
Fireside
Simon & Schuster Inc.
Simon & Schuster Bldg.
1230 Avenue of the Americas
New York, NY 10020
Phone: (212)698-7000
Christina Robertson. 1989, first Fireside edition. Subtitle: A Supportive Workbook for Women Facing the Process of Divorce. Chapters cover emotional support, decision making, legal assistance, divorce settlement, children, money, careers, social life, and assertivenees. Includes a bibliography, and lists organizations or associations that assist divorcing women.

Women and Divorce/Men and Divorce
Haworth Press, Inc.
10 Alice St.
Binghamton, NY 13904-1580
Phone: (607)722-5857
Free: 800-342-9678
Sandra Sue Volgy. 1991. Subtitle: Gender Differences in Separation, Divorce, and Remarriage.

Women Working and Divorce: Cause or Effect?
Patricia Nicholas. Psychology Today, October 1986. pp.12(2).

WomenWork! The National Network for Women’s Employment
1625 K St. NW, Ste. 300
Washington, DC 20006
Phone: (202)467-6346
Fax: (202)467-5366
Jill Miller, Exec.Dir.
Displaced homemakers, displaced homemaker services, persons from related organizations, and supporters. Fosters development of programs and services for displaced homemakers. Provides communications, technical assistance, public information, data collection, legislative monitoring, funding information, and other services. Maintains program data library including annual reports, flyers, manuals, and descriptive material. Provides referrals. Publications: Displaced Homemaker Program Directory,
annual. Covers over 1,200 counseling and career assistance centers for women who are (primarily) widowed, divorced, separated, or abandoned after full-time careers as wives and mothers. Transition Times, semiannual. Newsletter. Also publishes Guide to the Displaced Homemakers Self-Sufficiency Assistance Act, Transition to Triumph!, Overcoming Obstacles, Winning Jobs: Tools to Prepare Displaced Homemakers for Paid Employment, program manual, press kit, and other materials.

Working Opportunities for Women Resource Center
2700 University Ave. W, Ste. 120
St. Paul, MN 55114
Phone: (612)647-9961
Holdings cover subjects such as divorce, employment, and networking.

Yours, Mine and Divorce
Jeff Meer. Psychology Today, Vol. 20, June 1986, p. 13(1).

DIVORCE EDUCATION

Alliance for Divorce and Marriage Reform
3368 Governor Dr., Ste. 208F
San Diego, CA 92122
Phone: (619)457-0414, ext. 208
Seeks to empower and educate women. Helps women understand their rights with respect to their attorneys and the judicial system.

Alliance for Women of Divorce
9542 Bay Vista West Dr.
Indianapolis, IN 46250
Phone: (317)845-0796
Provides practical information to women contemplating or experiencing divorce.

Approaching a Marital Dissolution: Here’s What You Need to Do and How and When to Do It
California Continuing Education of the Bar
2300 Shattuck Ave.
Berkeley, CA 94704
Phone: (510)642-7590
Free: 800-924-3924
Blanche C. Bersch. 1989.

The Encyclopedia of Marriage, Divorce and Family
Facts on File, Inc.
460 Park Ave. S.
New York, NY 10016
Phone: (212)683-2244
Free: 800-322-8755
Fax: (212)213-4578
Margaret DiCanio. 1989. Contains over 500 terms and explanations, including grounds for divorce, history of divorce, social factors, children’s rights, mediation, child support, alimony, and custody. Appendixes include a guide to divorce procedure, selecting an attorney, sample documents, and additional resources.

L.A.W.
Legal Awareness of Westchester, Inc.
PO Box 35-H
Scarsdale, NY 10583
Phone: (914)472-2371
Offers educational seminars and telephone counseling designed to help men and women make informed choices about divorce and related issues.

The Lilac Tree
Women in Transition, Inc.
PO Box 1659
Evanston, IL 60204-1659
Phone: (708)328-0313
Nan Gold, Exec. Dir.
Organization dedicated to helping divorced women adjust to single life.

More Courts Are Forcing Couples to Take Divorce-Education Class
Junda Woo. The Wall Street Journal, October 1, 1993. Many courts around the country are requiring divorcing parents to take classes on how to guide their children through the breakup. The classes emphasize placing the well-being of children above parental disputes.

Neutral Ground
1700 Ridge Rd. E.
Rochester, NY 14622
Phone: (716)787-9991
Information groups for divorcing, divorced, and widowed singles.

Second Saturday
Women’s Institute for Financial Education
13569 Tiverton
San Diego, CA 92130
Phone: (619)792-0524
Ginita Wall, Founder
Divorce education program where advice is given in a group setting on how to prepare for divorce, how the legal process works, property and support settlement expectations, whether mediation is appropriate, and how to cope emotionally. Similar programs have been started in New Jersey, Virginia, Pennsylvania, and South Carolina. The Institute welcomes inquiries for those interested in beginning a similar program in their area.

GETTING ORGANIZED

The Divorce Decisions Workbook
McGraw-Hill, Inc.
1221 Avenue of the Americas
New York, NY 10020
Margorie L. Engel and Diana D. Gould. 1992. Subtitle: A Planning and Action Guide. Provides practical information and advice in the four primary decision areas of divorce including legal, financial, practical, and emotional. Chapters cover such topics as understanding the divorce process, getting organized, pulling yourself and family together, understanding legal and financial aspects, child custody and support, and structuring the separation agreement. Workbook format helps readers organize and document divorce-related information. Appendix lists professional associations and support groups that provide divorce assistance.

National Association of Professional Organizers
655 N. Alvernon Way, Ste. 108
Tucson, AZ 85711
Phone: (602)322-9753
Professional organizers providing organization, time management, or productivity improvement services. Works to promote and educate the public about the profession and to offer support, education, and networking opportunities to members.

Organized to Be the Best!
Adams-Hall Publishing
PO Box 491002
Los Angeles, CA 90049
Phone: (213)399-7137
Susan Silver. 1991. Subtitle: New Time Saving Ways to Simplify and Improve How You Work. Offers advice on how to target goals, prioritize, and delegate duties. Also provides tips on how to organize computer files, and get the most efficient use out of work space.

RELOCATING

Divorce Lawyers
Saint Martin’s Press, Inc.
175 5th Ave.
New York, NY 10010
Phone: (212)674-5151
Emily Couric. 1993. Subtitle: What Happens in America’s Courts. Discusses the divorce process in lay terms. Covers actual cases in which client/lawyer relationships and different approaches to the legal system are examined. Topics covered include prenuptial agreements, child custody, child snatching, property rights, placing a value on businesses, relocation, stepparent rights, abuse, and more. Lists support groups and resources.

Grown Children Show You Can Go Home Again
Peter Weaver. Nation’s Business, Vol. 80, May 1992, pp. 78(1). Many adult children are moving back to their parents homes, some because of the recession and higher divorce rates. Parents should be aware of legal problems, especially when minor children are involved. Parents are not usually liable for grown children’s financial claims.

Live-in Divorce: Tortured Couples Who Have to Stay Together
Francine Russo. New York, Vol. 23, February 5, 1990, pp. 40(7).

Moving with Children
Gylantic Publishing Co.
PO Box 2792
Littleton, CO 80161-2792
Phone: (303)797-6093
Thomas T. Olkowski and Lynn Parker. 1993. Subtitle: A Parent’s Guide to Moving with Children. Examines why moving causes problems for children, how children feel about it, and how parents can help them cope. Also offers advice on how to help children adjust once the move is completed.