Question: I have been pretty unhappy in my marriage for the past year, mostly due to my wife’s refusal to socialize with me. We used to go out a couple of times each week, but since she became pregnant with our daughter, she began doing all the “right things” and has had no time for me at all.

Instead of going out to bars where I knew I would get in trouble, I decided to try an Internet dating service to see if I could meet someone more compatible. I began exchanging e-mails and messages with a woman who lives not far from me, who is also married, and who is also unhappy in her relationship.

For fear of being found out, neither of us posted our picture, but before long, we decided to meet to at least see if we liked each other’s looks. We didn’t know it, but her husband had been suspicious that she was fooling around, followed her, and took pictures of us at a restaurant, which he promptly gave to my wife. Now my wife wants me to move out because she doesn’t trust me anymore. A co-worker told me, however, that these photos can’t be used in court because her husband probably tapped her computer illegally. I have been trying to get back on my wife’s good side, but she will have no part of it. Does my wife have grounds to kick me out?

Answer: Let’s see: A wife stops drinking and smoking when she becomes pregnant, in order to try to deliver a normal, healthy child. After she does, she begins spending the time with their child that she used to spend out and about with her husband. He begins looking for someone more compatible on the Internet, finds the new love of his life, gets caught by the husband, and then wants back in with his incompatible wife – until he can find another more compatible mate, that is.

If your wife doesn’t have grounds to kick you out, there is something wrong with the law in your state. And if she gives you another chance, we believe there is something wrong with her, given your cavalier attitude. If you play your cards right, you might become the basis for a new television reality program, “Which One Should My Daughter Not Marry?”

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Question: My husband’s lawyer has been harassing me for nearly a year by making unfounded claims that have caused me agony, not to mention money for my lawyer to defend. My husband and I have been married for 27 years, and our children are both grown, so it’s not like we have a custody case here. I am just asking for my fair share and some support, that’s all. My lawyer has asked the court for protection, but it will be months before a judge will hear our plea. Is there a way to stop what I believe is nothing but legal harassment?

Answer: When a lawyer signs a complaint or other legal paper, there is an implied certification that he or she has read the document and, to the best of his or her knowledge, the allegations contained in that document are supported by adequate basis.

If claims are made without good faith basis or for oppressive reasons, the court has the authority to assess sanctions, including attorney’s fees. To do this, the court must make findings that the lawyer’s conduct amounts to bad faith. While there are two sides to every story, sometimes one side does not rise to the legally required level, and a judge must make that decision.