Tip #14: A Few"Don't's" You Should Consider

A FEW OF THE "DON'T'S"...

Now you know about the "DO'S". Here are some of the "DON'T's" which you may choose to utilize to your best advantage in planning your future and following through with the advice of your attorney. If you have any questions, be sure to always seek and follow the advice of your attorney.

1. DON'T take the process lightly. It is very serious and the outcome, to a large extent, will affect you for the rest of your life.

2. DON'T forget that court proceedings generally involve judges who make decisions based upon the facts presented by your lawyer and your spouse's lawyer. Your believability and demeanor is important in influencing the judge's discretion. Use common sense and be honest.

3. DON'T burn all of the bridges between you and your spouse, especially if minor children are involved. Direct your energies toward assisting in the preparation of your case and constructive goals rather than destructive ones.

4. DON'T think your lawyer is a miracle worker who can solve your problems overnight. It has taken you years to get to this point. There are no easy solutions in matrimonial matters.

5. DON"T contact your lawyer for every little thing. Keep a list and make an appointment when it is necessary to discuss your case.

6. DON'T make threats or antagonize. This will only serve to intensify an already emotionally charged relationship.

7. DON'T make oral or written statements that you might not want to hear again.

8. DON'T reveal to anyone, even close family members, any communications you have had with your lawyer. Your relationship with your lawyer is privileged; however, if you choose to talk about it, then you may waive this privilege...and you may give away the strategies of your case.

9. DON'T forget to keep in a private place your diary and any communications from your lawyer.

10. DON'T rely upon the advice of friends who "have been through it" as to what you should get, what you should pay, or what is fair. Each case is different. Rely upon your chosen attorney.

11. DON'T cancel insurance coverage or take drastic steps before you think through what you are about to do. You could be sorry.