Must every divorce go to court? Yes. Must every divorce be expensive for those involved? No, not when the parties involved have decided on mediation. Mediation is a process by which an intelligent, impartial person or persons help those who are having problems arriving at agreements.
Divorce mediation can help save energy spent on the exhausting divorce litigation process. It can also help reduce costs and tension during the divorce. Most divorces (80% to 90%) are settled before trial. By utilizing a mediator early in the process, you can save money that would normally be spent engaging in heavy-duty litigation.
Mediation must not be taken lightly though. It's important to know when is the best time to bring a mediator in - or if to bring one in at all. If you bring one in too late, you might lose the benefits of having one, meaning that you may have wasted your energy on fighting, leaving little strength - or money - for effective negotiating and problem solving.
In some cases, however, mediation is not an option - such as where there is domestic violence or inferior bargaining positions. Therefore, you should know get advice about mediation before trying it out. If you don't, divorce mediation could be a wasteful and expensive process.
How you participate in mediation is very important. To get the most out of it, you should know how to handle mediation properly.
Find out how to make mediation work for you by reading Jan Warner's Mediation FAQ and his other divorce mediation resources. New resources are posted free for 30 days, but after that, they are only available to FlyingSolo members. A lifetime membership is only $10.00. Membership brings you unlimited access to Jan's entire library of divorce mediation resources and other divorce related topics. Membership is quite affordable when you consider the benefits.